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Becoming a Young Lady: How I Handled My Daughter’s Transformation

5 Jul

It’s been several years since my last post.  Various events in my life have led me to have little to virtually no time for myself, all of which I could have blogged about and they would have been great stories, however, I’ve tried dedicating what little time I do have to my children.  With that being said, my comeback post relates to my now 11 year old daughter and the dreaded step closer to becoming a woman.girls-on-their-period_o_2073325

Yes, you read correctly, how can I say it more clearly without causing alarm, MY 11 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER got her period.  I never thought the day would come and yet, like a freak hurricane, IT arrived in full force.  She freaked out, I freaked out and more than anything, my son freaked out. My 8 year old daughter thought it was cute and adorable, I found that a bit disturbing.  She obviously has no idea what monster she’s got coming to her.  Nonetheless, after running around like a crazy lady and “confirming” several times that she had actually started her period, we got dressed and prepared to make our trek to the store to “shop” for her items.  Upon arriving at our local supermarket we made our way to the “feminine products” aisle where I was faced with a plethora of choices for her.  I was lost.  I had no idea what to choose for her.    I know you’re asking yourselves how this is possible since I’m a woman too.  Well, I’m 34 and for the last 20 odd years or so, I have been going to the exact same spot at the supermarket picking out the exact same feminine product, not once paying any mind to the endless other choices.

Anyways, while standing in the aisle scoping out our options, my daughter begins to have a breakdown.  Tears start streaming down her face and she is absolutely mortified at the thought of having to pick out something that is absolutely normal.  Meanwhile, my 8 year old screams out at the top of her lungs, “Mom is that going to happen to me too!”  My poor 11 year old had the most upsetting look on her face.   Of course, I’m not helping the situation by giggling at each option I look at and trying to explain the different pros and cons of each product.  Finally, my sympathy for her kicks in and I help her choose one pack that looks like it is geared towards “preteens”.  My daughter, rightly so, makes me carry the box to the register and she stands as far away from me as possible, as if I’m holding something that presents imminent danger to her life.  So I pay and we walk out of the store and head on home.  In my head, I’m trying to go over HOW I’m going to show her how to use these things, these “feminine pads” and I’m dreading every bit of it.  We arrive at home and my daughter rushes to the restroom, me following behind.  I begin the exhausting process of explaining exactly how this product is to be used and the normality of it all.  I have “the” talk with my daughter about the importance of crossing the little girl to young lady threshold and I stress the importance of being careful in any situation she may be presented with.  I have to remind myself several times that, regardless of her age, her young mindset, HER body has began to transform itself to that of a young lady.

I can’t help but shed a few tears, my little girl is growing up, and dammit I think I handled it pretty damn well.

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Record Your Memories

22 May

Memories.  That is all our children have left once we are gone.  As a mother I want to make sure that they have as many wonderful memories of our time together as possible. 

I recently started a journal and on the dedication page I addressed it to all my children.  I try to document our time together on a weekly basis, whether it is something sad, scary, funny, happy or even boring (although there aren’t very many of those in a household with my three little ones).  It really shouldn’t matter what you write down.   Your children will enjoy and appreciate reading about their time with you while they were growing up. 

The point here is that when we are gone we want our children to be able to open up this journal, pick out a page and read a little story, even if it’s the tiniest of  memories, that pertain to them.  Our time here on earth is borrowed so we must make the best and the most out of it before it is too late. 

Leave a treasured gift behind for your children.

Killing Several Birds With One Stone

21 May

I know us single moms are always extremely busy and we find ourselves lacking time to do many things.  I came home today not planning to go anywhere.  Generally I always make dinner, work on homework with the kids and relax for a while before it’s off to shower and bed.  But our household has become a little more hectic lately and I am needing to find ways to get everything done in one day and still have some time to rest.  Well, today I decided to take a walk with my kids and our new puppy to the park.  In doing this I found myself being able to get some exercise, the kids were able to play (and exercise), our puppy was able to get her much needed walk and the biggest plus of all, I took my new camera to snap some photos.  These are a few of the sample pics I snapped a while ago.  I am still getting the hang of it but I find myself enjoying this newfound hobby.  Nevertheless, this seems like a good routine to follow several times a week.  I’m able to kill several birds with one stone and I encourage all you single, busy moms to do the same.  Figure out how you can get several things done at once and you will realize how much free time you find yourself with.

 

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