The Absent Parent

25 May

Absent-Fathers

What do you respond to your innocent children when they ask why “daddy” hasn’t called or come to visit them?   I for one  have always replied with the most basic answer “because he is working”.  But is this really what I should be telling my kids’ when the truth is he just doesn’t care?  He doesn’t call, write or visit ever, unless of course he needs something in which case he specifically tells me not to mention him to the kids.  It’s really heartbreaking watching my children, who are oblivious to what’s going on, their tears which bring about feelings inside me that I wish I could get rid of.  Feelings of anger, betrayal, sadness, fear and countless others that I’m sure other single parents have experienced plenty of times.   I am at the point in my life where I do not wish to lie to my children anymore.  Yes, they are young, but I do not believe lying to them will benefit them in any way.   Please do not misunderstand me, I do NOT and have never been a “daddy-basher” and I do not intend to do this.  I simply feel that beginning to tell my children the truth about their father is the most efficient way to handle things, I really would like to spare them the heartbreak in the future.

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